Author Archives: Jay Butchko
Study Shows Divorce Does Not Change Your Personality
A recent study published by Individual and Personality Differences found that, despite widely held beliefs, divorce doesn’t change your personality—at least not as much as you may think. In other words, the study found that divorce is not a consistent predictor of personality change. The study showed that “folk wisdom” concerning how “divorce changes… Read More »
Divorcing An Abusive Spouse: A How-To Guide
When women are asked why they stay with abusive partners so long, they generally answer that they were afraid to leave or even broach the topic of going their own way for fear that their partner would harm them or their children. Oftentimes, victims of domestic abuse feel like there is no way to… Read More »
Physical And Mental Health Issues Often Follow Divorce
Every two weeks we get a new study concerning the emotional, psychiatric, physical, or other ill tidings that post-date divorce. These studies tend to produce results that say something like: “As a consequence of divorce, you are 85% more likely to suffer symptoms of depression, anxiety, or entertain thoughts of suicide.” That’s not what… Read More »
Instead of Divorce, Try Sleep Divorce
If all the problems in your marriage are related to the fact that your partner snores and you can’t get a full night of sleep, science now suggests sleeping apart to save your marriage. While sleeping in separate beds won’t save all marriages, it will certainly save the ones that are on the rocks… Read More »
Husband Stabs Wife After She Announces Plan to Divorce
A Florida man became so irate when his wife announced that she would be seeking a divorce that he stabbed her several times, according to police. When the police arrived, Mike Reuchel told them that an intruder had broken into their home, attacked the couple, and stabbed his wife. The wife, who underwent surgery… Read More »
Japanese Study Says 40% of Children of Divorce Said Life Was Harder Post-Divorce
A recent study conducted in Tokyo surveyed the children of divorce. Forty percent of those surveyed said that their lives became harder after their parents divorced. Meanwhile, 60% of children didn’t seem to suffer any increase in the hardness of their lives. This is good news. We often assume that a divorce will be… Read More »
Why is Divorce a Leading Driver of Bankruptcy?
Divorce is a lot of things. One of those things is financially draining. The issue is that many marriages head toward divorce due to financial issues. So it’s difficult, sometimes, to determine if the financial problems caused the divorce or if the divorce caused the financial problems. What we do know is that divorce… Read More »
When Should I File for Bankruptcy? Before, During, or After Divorce?
It’s no secret that the majority of marriages fail because of financial problems. At least, that seems to be the most common reason couples cite for ending their marriage. Chances are, there were problems in the marriage prior to financial issues which placed enough of a strain on the marriage to cause it to… Read More »
Divorcees Flock to Florida to Start New Lives
According to a recent study, Florida is no longer the elephant graveyard of the United States, but a love paradise attracting recent divorcees. Over the last 12 months, the State of Florida has acquired over 2,581 new men all of whom are recent divorcees. This is the highest rate of divorcee immigration in the… Read More »
Law Firm Offers Free Divorce (Not Us)
A Detroit law firm offered a free divorce to potential clients. Clients were expected to write in with their list of reasons for wanting a divorce or from moving away from their current attorney. According to the attorney who offered the free divorce, he was looking for someone who stood out, not the typical… Read More »
Study Shows Common Reasons Why Couples Divorce
A recent survey of 52 individuals who underwent PREP (Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program) while they were engaged sought to test the effectiveness of the program for couples. Specifically, the study hoped that couples would share their reasons for divorce including the “final straw” that pushed them over the edge. The program was meant… Read More »
Science Tries to Predict What Factors Lead to Divorce
Scientists use statistical models to determine what will probably happen. Scientists also identify factors that make something more likely without necessarily being the lone cause. While there are severe limitations to using generalized information for predictive models, it can be interesting, if not entirely useful, to outline potential risk factors in divorce. So what… Read More »
Pandemic News: Divorce is Down, Domestic Violence is Up
Initially, it was believed that the pandemic would cause divorce rates to spike. This information was provided anecdotally by divorce attorneys who were fielding a larger-than-average amount of inquiries concerning divorce. However, this has not played out in the courts. Perhaps because many courthouses are closed to non-essential hearings, the number of divorce filings… Read More »
Experts Say That January is “Divorce Month”
Have you chosen your New Year’s resolution yet? Is it to divorce your spouse? If so, you’re not alone. Divorce attorneys and relationship experts call January “divorce month”. That’s because we see a temporary uptick in the rate of divorce shortly after the holiday season when the new year begins. One of the major… Read More »
Spouses Turn to Electronic Snooping to Spy, But is it Legal?
Like all complex questions, the answer is sometimes yes and sometimes no. Attorneys will use social media in all kinds of court proceedings and divorce is perhaps one of the most popular. Social media posts of your spouse out with friends provides an inquiring attorney with a lot of information. This information can (and… Read More »
Anti-Vaxxers and Child Custody Issues
What if I told you that 3% of all the people who take the COVID vaccine spontaneously change sex? Would you believe me? Maybe. There are people right now rallying around the idea that the Earth is flat and that we’re all a part of some global conspiracy to hide the truth. While these… Read More »
Recent Study Discusses the Emotional and Physical Toll of Divorce
Everyone knows that divorce is a stressful time for couples, their children, and their friends and family. But what may not be obvious is the physical toll that emotional stress has on a family. To be sure, the decision to divorce isn’t reached lightly. Those who initiate divorces tend to believe that the stress… Read More »
New Study Claims that Divorces are Down During COVID
After eight months of non-stop media coverage concerning divorce rates during quarantine, a new study released by the Institute for Family Studies is claiming that divorce rates actually have gone down over the past months. Statistics related to high divorce rates were based on the number of divorce petitions filed in court. Statistics related… Read More »
Judge Rejects Derek Chauvin’s Divorce Deal
Derek Chauvin, the Minneapolis police officer who found his way into infamy after kneeling on George Floyd’s neck, is now dealing with a divorce. In times like this, while one individual is facing criminal charges, they tend to want to transfer all of their valuable assets to a spouse who is not facing criminal… Read More »
Study Links Children of Divorce to Lower Oxytocin Levels
A recent study has linked children of divorce to lower levels of the so-called “love hormone” oxytocin. Children whose parents remained married throughout the duration of their childhood had higher levels of oxytocin, the study showed. Oxytocin is the chemical associated with all kinds of intimate bondings, including sex, but also hugging and other… Read More »
